Oh No He Didn't !!!

After my last post one of my readers wanted me to answer the question "WHY DO AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN GET UPSET WHEN THEY SEE A BLACK MAN WITH A WOMEN OF ANOTHER RACE? For me that was a hard question to answer because I honestly could careless about race. Relationships for me are about so much more attraction, connection, bond, personalities, race seems to be last on the totem pole. So I turned to my followers on Twitter (www.twitter.com/leahjanell FOLLOW ME SHAMELESS PLUG)to get their opinion. One young lady said "IT ONLY BOTHERS ME IF THE MALE HAS BRAIDS OR DREAD LOCKS, OR IF HE IS REALLY DARK SKINNED" Now when she said that I assumed it was because most individuals with dreads are more culturally aware IDK. But when I asked her why she replied because its not like a white woman would be able to twist their locks, or braid their hair, I found that hilarious... I think most African American women look at successful black men who date women of other nationalities as cop outs. But personally I have always wanted to date a man like my father dark skin, great smile, amazing personality, so when I see an interracial couple it makes me wonder why did he stray away from what his mom was like, why wouldn't he want to date a women that reminds him of his mother... Interracial dating can lead to so many questions but at the end of the day its to each is own, whatever makes you happy...

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Cooking, Cleaning and Freaking...

I have come to realize that alot of African American men love hispanic women. For the past year I have wondered why I mean is it a long hair light skin thing and if so there are many black girls with those same features so it had to be more than that. So here is my theory the TYPICAL Hispanic female lives by the creed LET ME CATER TO YOU while most African American girls are striving to be Ms Independent. Now there is nothing wrong with either position but we as African American women have to learn that though we are independent and strong we don't have to always wear our strength on our sleeve. We are quick to tell a man we don't need them and where they can go and what we can do on our own. We are quick to say I'm not cooking tonight when a spanish girl understands that when he comes home he doesn't want to hear all the extra sh!t he wants the house cleaned, dinner on the table and some good loving when he's done eating... So I am taking some time to learn about the other side, to learn to submit more, instead of being all about me, me, me, Leah Janell is Cooking Cleaning and Freaking

Never Say Never

Whats the deal my people, I have been extremely busy lately you know twittering my life away LOL... But no really on a serious note lately I have been faced with some challenging situations. You know how when your were growing up and you would say " WHAT! Not me, I would NEVER do that!!! Then as you grow up you see yourself doing just the things that you said you never would do. I remember being 10 years old at my uncles house and he left a budweiser on the table my cousin and I both took a swig, and to our surprise what happened to be my uncles favorite thirst quencher, tasted like the nastiest thing on earth to us. After that experience I said I will NEVER EVER drink alcohol. Low and behold my freshmen year of college changed all of that... But now I want to know what are some of the things that you all may have said NEVER to and then eventually WILLINGLY experienced. Have you ever went back to a guy after he put his hands on you. I mean after seeing RIRI we all said I would NEVER go back to him if I were her. Have you ever dated a married man? Did you pick up a smoking habit. Come on guys whats that one thing that you said you would never do BUT LATER YOU DID IT...

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#1 Fan...

RiRi who was scheduled to spend one hour with Jasmina decided to stay for the entire day, the two played catch, polished nails and did make up... Jasmina is said the be Rihanna's number 1 fan and was totally excited to have RiRi spend the day with her.


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GOT DAMN SHES FINE, BUT SHE PARTY'S ALL THE TIME...

So I think Jay said it best, all men love a beautiful woman and it makes it all the more better if shes educated and employed. Now take that same chick and put her in Home on Sunday night popping Bottles and dancing on Tables, and on Tuesday night she's across the street at the Pink Elephant doing it all over again. Wed. shes back at it at Kiss & Fly, Thursday Room Service, Friday Mansion and Saturday The Sky Bar... Now let me ask how is this same female perceived. I took a TWITTER survey Today and I received various comments, men are not impressed with a woman who is in a different club every night of the week. Even if this same young lady has her situation together. One of my followers on Twitter stated "I hate it Leah, that is so wack... To be honest I think its shows alot about a female who is always in the club, real talk I'm like Damn Ma you need to sit down..." The end result is men like women who have a bit of mystery to them, and if your always in the club he knows exactly where to find you. Its not the greatest look...

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LIL MAMA VISITS OUR LIL MAMA

Last week Lil Mama took the time out to visit our Little Princess JASMINA... I'm sure this was not an easy road traveled seeing as how Lil Mama lost her mom to Cancer in 2008... Lets continue to Pray for Jasmina she is still in desperate need of a bone marrow match.... Visit www.oneforjasmina.com

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Absolutely FABO...

Somebody Stop Them... Rhianna and her bestie Mellisa Ford look amazing as they arrive in Hawaii LOVE THE LOOKS LADIES... I would say its a KNOCK OUT look but then people would say I'm wrong LOL...

Leaving a Tip...

How Often do you TIP? Once I went on a trip to Vegas and I thought to myself TIPing IS OUT OF CONTROL. We had to tip the door man, and the hotel clerk, and the taxi driver, not to mention the waiters at all the restuarants we ate at. The TIP game in VEGAS was insane. But with that I say if you expect good service employees expect good tips. But who do you tip, when do you tip and most importantly HOW MUCH DO YOU TIP? What surprises me the most is that as African Americans we often go to a black owned establishment and tip lightly but when we go to a white owned establishment we tip more. Why are we not supporting our people as we do others...

The Reality Round Up...

Whats going on my people, I know those of you who are regulars are thinking "WHATS GOING ON" but I'm back, just took a little break, needed to regroup... With that being said, as you all know I am on the REALITY SHOW bandwagon...

Lets Start with T.I.'S ROAD to REDEMPTION...
MTV allowed T.I. to air his community Service project THE ROAD TO REDEMPTION, where T.I. "TIP" HARRIS is making an effort to redeem himself from his past mistakes by saving 7 teenagers who are on the wrong path from facing the same destructive path that he has faced... Week after Week I am touched by the different stories that these teens share. Just watching teenagers live a life so violent and destructive is scary. Their was one story that stood out to me, a young man name Anthony who's step father forced him to stay in a gang. Looking in this young mans eyes I could see that he wanted to live a normal and safe life but out of fear he did what he thought he had to do to stay alive. Each teen had a story, Each story touched me. Just to think T.I. helped 7 teens there are so many more out there on these streets just like them... WHATS YOUR COMMUNITY SERVICE...





Leah Janell: In My Shoes